What: Learn to Defend Yourself Against Control Freaks
When: Right now, of course
Why: You’ll keep getting beating up if you don’t learn better coping strategies.
I HATE manipulation and control freaks. I am using the word hate. I hate stupid manipulative advertisements telling (attempting to tell me) what I need to make me feel good or be a better person. I hate the salesperson at the cell phone store telling what $50 add on services “I need”.
Excuse me. I don’t need any of those sh.., shenanigans.
But you know what I hate MOST? I hate dealing with Control Freaks.
Life is short. It’s my life. Not yours! Back off! You want me to stay then give me space.
As you may already know I do NOT think cheating is the right answer- EVER, but it is what it is and I did it, but I wish I would have learned some coping techniques to dealing with her over-controlling and bossy ways.
I admit I am still improving how to deal with bossy people, but this is just at work. I no longer deal with this in a relationship setting. It’s just that it is a Hot Topic for me. So the one thing I find that I do effectively to deal with control freaks is illustrate to them that I have identified their needs. These techniques can be use both in relationships and at work.
How does this neutralize them?
It makes them feel that I am on their side. It also makes them feel like I will work with them not against them. There are multiple ways I have experimented with with this.
Questions
Compliments
Observations
Invitations to Express Their Thoughts
Combination of Techniques
There are a couple managers where I currently work that are definitely control freaks. They won’t let you finish your sentence before butting in, they think they know everything and they micro-manage to the point you feel like it’d be easier just to tie strings around your legs and arms and have them move you around like a puppet.
Isn’t that what they want? No, not really. Their bossiness is just a fear of things falling out of control and becoming chaotic. And the above techniques will help earn their trust if you continue to use them over time.
I use these techniques above with them and I NEVER have problems with them. They see I speak their language and treat me different then the rest of my co-workers. They often give me the benefit of the doubt.
Practice these techniques enough and those dictators in your life should proactively look out for your best interests since they now value you as an ally. You stand out from the rest of the crowd that they feel does not “get them”.
In the case of relationships your spouse will begin to let go of the fear of losing you and seek to please you too.
Is your control freak spouse just needy?
Article I Found.
Check out this great article I found on even more 5 Ways to Deal with Bossy People.
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