True Infidelity Stories: My Responses to Your Emails

My subscribers write to me from time to time, open up their hearts and tell me their true infidelity stories.

These real-life situations will remind you that you are not alone.

Of course, you can read my infidelity story and why I started this blog.

They arrive from all over the world from every continent.

In many cases the family faced other traumatic experiences like death to a child or parent.

Everyone who has written me does so for different reasons.

Some just want someone on the outside to talk to and others look for advice.

Feel free to leave a comment at the bottom if you relate to the stories.

I started with this just this one email which I received recently and will add more of my responses moving forward.

If you’d like to email me with your story fill out the form below. I do not include the names of the people who sent them.

I don’t even publish what they wrote me, instead I summarize what they sent.

And I ALWAYS respond fast, within 24 hours, usually within 2-3 unless you write from the other side of the world in a different time zone while I am asleep.

The only reason I ask for the name in the form below is so that I can respond to you in a conversational way.

Again your name will NOT appear in my published response.

Send Me Your True Infidelity Stories Here…

“My Husband is a Serial Cheater”

I received this email today actually and summarized the headline.

This type of email I get fairly often from wives whose husbands fully support them financially, travel on business and have an addiction to sleep with other women, often times much younger.

They almost always have kids.

The poor, broken-hearted wives write me feeling helpless and hopeless.

It always kills me to read them.

All they want is the normal life they see other families have: a happy home life with their kids and husbands, but instead any moment of happiness is short-lived as they catch their disloyal husbands soon after.

They run into the heart-crushing surprise of naked pics of women that pop up on their husbands phones in a mile-long text conversation or a mutual friend relays the horrific news of the affair.

Time and time again the husbands beg for mercy, promise they will never do it again, but cannot break the serial cheating addiction.

Here’s my response to this recent email…

I am honored and touched that my emails help you get through the pain.

It hurts me to read what you wrote.

First, your age wouldn’t stop someone from loving you.

I can tell you from first hand experience that what matters in the end is a woman’s inner core personality.

How she treats a man and makes him feel special, interesting and loved.

Nothing feels better than when a woman adores a man and sees him as a source of energy and happiness.

It certainly sounds like your husband provides you the things that make you happy, that’s why you stick by him.

At the same time when you say, “I am not young anymore” it indicates that you have considered finding someone else or that you fear fending for yourself.

I know it can be scary to go alone and maybe not everyone is in the position financially or has a support group, like family or friends somewhere to live for a bit.

I was forced to go single, she left.

That’s when the blog went full force.

The Fork in the Road

I think we all want a safe option to choose from when staring at a fork in the road.

We want at least one road that stands in front of us to be smooth with lots of pretty scenery.

That way we can avoid the one with potholes, rocks, that winds through a dark forest and then over a scary, creaky, old bridge that may collapse above the cold, strong current river below.

BUT…

…it’s inevitable that in life we find ourselves in situations when both roads lead through rough spots.

It won’t be a smooth ride.

I don’t know your exact situation, but I’m guessing it’s something like option a) figure out a way to stand up for yourself and face your husband head on in way that he respects you and seeks help to stop his serial cheating or deal with the reality that he will never stop or option b) move on alone even though that path may not be clear.

Neither option promises a happy ending, but one thing is for sure…he has continued to cheat and probably will keep doing it and breaking your heart if you don’t find a way to get him to stop.

Any happy moment you live may follow up with heartbreak when you find out he found someone yet again.

Addictions

No explanation, no sensible reason, just that some people get caught in a trap of addiction to a feeling that relieves temporary tension.

For some people it’s alcohol, others it’s playing or watching sports, some it’s gambling and the feeling of getting lucky, some get hooked on traveling, others playing video games, and others the sense of being worshiped by the opposite sex and conquering someone’s heart.

So no matter how well we treat someone, no matter how much we think that we are supposed to comprise of a team, no matter how much we love someone, life is life and people will be people and they will act unpredictably and justify why they do what they do to fulfill their own needs.

I recommend a reading for you.

Check out the book “The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship” by Don Miguel Ruiz.

This is one of the healthiest, most comprehensive, open-minded readings to understand love and protect yourself from disappointment I have come across.

You are a sweetheart.

Don’t forget it. You deserve love.

Orlando
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“I Married a Serial Cheater Who Left Me with Debts, Assaulted Me…

…and then moved in with his 15-years-older lover”

You can’t make this stuff up.

One thing I have noticed from all my emails is that the true infidelity stories almost are too hard to believe.

It’s like if you tried to make the stories up they’d sound more true than the actual real-life ones.

This subscriber shared with me how her serial cheating husband of 26 years in Australia blew money she personally invested, hurt her physically and eventually left her for a woman no where near as attractive as her.

This is common. That cheaters seek someone less attractive who does not intimidate them.

She has gone through many health battles (cancer, blood clots and brain surgery) and then the affair and now relayed to me that she lives in peace on her own in a beautiful beach town on the coast of Australia.

After reading the first response on this post she filled in the form and shared her story and then even gave me permission to publish it here.

Then read my response after.

Subscriber’s Response to the First of the True Infidelity Stories on this Page

“Yes this happened to me to. My husband of 26 years is a serial cheater. I wanted to save our marriage, he didn’t this time, moved straight in with the affair partner. Cutting blow after everything I did for our family, the money invested, he left me with all the debts to clear up, then assaulted me to boot. So now the courts are handeling everything. He will be one very sorry cheating husband that’s for sure now. The many times I forgave him for his numerous affairs, he has been with it for over 2 years now & continues to cheat on her to, it’s comical, as she had rung me, txt me several times wondering how to handle him. I’ve told her I want nothing to do with her, it’s her problem now, she cheated with him, that’s the price you pay. I’ve told her to stay away from my children & grandchildren, I told her that her & my x husbands immoral behaviour in front of my children & grandchildren will not be tolerated by me, I didn’t bring them up that way, they do not need to be damaged any further by this filth, so I moved my family some 300 kilometres away.”

“I was so distraught for the first 2 years, & of course made all the silly mistakes, begging, pleading, crying for him to come back to our family, all fell deaf ears, pushed him further away & closer to her. He even assaulted me on two occasions. We don’t speak at all now, He used me, abused me & when he realised I wouldn’t take it any more he fucked off to the next best thing, I finally realised why would I want a cheating lying man back in my life, psychologically & physically damaging me, my children & my grandchildren with the numerous affairs he had.
I wished I hadn’t waisted those two years now.”

“The only comfort I get now from realising my entire life was a lie & a joke. It that the ap is ugly & old 15 years older then him, everybody laughs & jokes about them behind their backs. She is not pleasant to look at, whining voice. It’s like a nightmare come true. I usually don’t put labels on anyone, but there is no understanding from our entire family why he shacked up with her, One of the main reasons I moved so far away. That has not come from a place of jealousy either, I said I have spoken with it a few times. It had no redeeming qualities at all, which I tend to look for in everyone. I wanted to see or hear the reasons he chose her over our 26 year marriage & family. All it did was confirm what everyone had been saying about her.”

“I know I might sound a little bitter, i sacrificed so much for x husband, now only realising how much, 50 years old now wasted the best years of my life with someone who treated me like a fool. Didn’t really love me at all & used me for everything I was willing to give.”

“2.5 years on I’m finally starting to love me again, hopefully one day in the future, I can meet someone that knows how to love properly, I really don’t want to see him ever again, I hope our paths never cross because I have nothing but hatred in my heart towards him. Selfish self centred person that only ever cared about himself, that’s obvious by the way he treats our children & grandchildren.”

“He can treat me like a dog, I can handle that, but the kids & grandkids. That’s where I draw the line.
I really do hope he stays away from me, I don’t ever want to see him again, no apology, nothing will negate what he had done to me & my family this time.
Once a cheater always a cheater this is living proof.”

And my response…

Wow, you have been through a lot. I remember our previous emails.

I don’t think any of my subscribers have been through more challenges than you.

Definitely one of the most unbelievable true infidelity stories I have come across, but all are unbelievable and unfortunate.

You’ve got to be one of the strongest women I have met.

I commend you.

I love the fact that you moved far away and made a new life for yourself.

And yes while it does rile me up to think about the affair too, I think we both agree that we cannot let that experience take away from re-routing our lives and finding new meaning.

I say, “Cheaters can take our relationships away, but not our lives.”

Affair Survival does not have to mean that you stayed married and lived happily ever after together.

It could mean you found a new life on your own or even someone new who appreciated who you are and does not fear communicating their needs to you.

Thank you for inviting others to email you and ask you questions.

 

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