It is hard to stomach that your spouse most likely was justifying cheating to the Other Person by complaining how rough it was with you. I know it’s tough right now but you spend time on yourself right now grieving and then giving yourself time to think about what you want to do. No matter what happens you’ll find out that you are a lot stronger than you realize. You will find a way to survive. It will become much more clear later. Affair survival means something different for each person. It’s your own unique way to cope with life after the affair. I want this to be a Win-Win survival situation (my free eBook) for you.

I am afraid of starting all over again, finding another partner, going through all the motions/steps, vetting process, screening & selection and rejecting, and starting over again, and again and again…).

I am afraid I will be haunted forever as long as I am with this man…that for the weeks the affair was (so he says), I was not enough. I was bot important. Our family was not important. I was the reason for you to seek comfort in another.